| March 26, 2013


I have gone out with this one guy a couple of times. We get along fine when we’re together, but when we’re apart, he’s flaky. He makes plans with me, then cancels an hour before. There’s always some sort of vague emergency. It’s really annoying, but I’m not sure if I should give him one more shot. What do you think?


Hi Gina,

People show you who they are out of the gate, yet we choose to ignore the warning signs. Based on what you’ve told me, he seems like a less-than-ideal partner. If you’re looking for companionship, i.e. a dinner date here and there, then he’s fine to keep on your dance card. But if you want a relationship, cut this one loose. 

If you can’t depend on him to keep a scheduled date, imagine how disappointing he’ll be as a boyfriend. It’s better to see it now, rather than invest time into someone who is undoubtedly problematic or only interested enough to keep you around as a potential dating option.

All the best,