When you're not so into your friend's other half, it can wreak havoc on your relationship — and theirs. If you don't handle it the right way, then it can be an awkward, sticky situation, so it's important to take a step back and deal with the issue.
Not a fan of your friend's guy? Learn how to deal with these five helpful tips:
- Decide whether it's just you. Think about why you have a problem with him. Is it something small, like an annoying habit? Are you just jealous of the time they spend together? Or is it an issue with how he treats your friend? If it's just you, then you need to work it out on your own, but if it's a bigger problem, then talk to another friend to figure out the next step.
- Consider their connection. Your friend is dating him for a reason, so take a step back to evaluate their relationship. What does she see in him? Which qualities does she gush about most? Think about why he's good for her, and let that be the foundation of the friendship you build with him.
- Find common ground. You have your friend in common, so chances are there's something you two can relate on. Ask your pal what he's into, learn more about his past, and when you're at the same event, strike up some small talk to see if you have any shared interests.
- Make a real effort. If he feels like you aren't a fan of his, then he definitely won't be himself when he's around you. Make a point to reach out and initiate one-on-one conversations so that he can feel more comfortable — that way, his best, most genuine self can shine through.
- Know your boundaries. Love him when it's a small group but can't stand him at major events? Recognize when and where you feel most at ease with him, and steer your friendship in that direction. If your friend is really into him, then he'll probably be around for a while, so it's important to define boundaries that work for you.