You can barely view any media these days without stumbling upon yet another celebrity couple in the throes of a messy divorce. Witnessing so many breakups can certainly take its toll. I regularly hear young people comment, “What’s the point of marrying if I’ll just end up divorced?”
Although divorce is prevalent in our society today, it is important that we all recognize that scores of people are ensconced in happy and healthy unions that last a lifetime. If you marry at the right time in your life, if you wed for the right reasons, and if you marry the right person, you have a good chance of success. And if you take your vows seriously, if you work on keeping your marriage vibrant and strong, and if you are able to weather life’s inevitable ups and downs as a partnership, you absolutely can have a fabulous love bond that will be ever-lasting.
Today, there are so many ways to celebrate your marriage and your partner. Let’s face it: Date night has nearly become ubiquitous in our culture. And that's for a good reason — keeping a marriage strong year upon year does require work. I regularly see married folks today “putting in their time.” This means they understand that their marriage, just like anything else in life, needs to be cultivated and cherished in order to last.
With this concept in mind, how about considering the prospect of renewing your marriage vows? Wouldn’t that be a fun and worthwhile project for both you and your spouse to take on together? If you agree and are game, here are a few ideas on how you can renew your vows in a meaningful way:
- Together with your spouse, write a new set of vows. In order to do this, I suggest you start by reviewing your original marriage vows. Read them over. What did you learn from this experience? Have you lived up to your vows? Would you renew them as is, or is writing a new set in order?
- If you decide to write a new set of vows, be inclusive and creative. Spend some quality time with your partner discussing what is important to you in your relationship today and what your hopes and dreams are for the future.
- Celebrate your love. Decide if you’d like to renew your vows in public or private. Have an adventure and create a unique and memorable event.
- Make a commitment to keep your vows front and center in your marriage for now and forever.
Remember that your vows can be renewed and celebrated as often as you would like. You can do so each year with an upcoming anniversary, or you can pick another date that is significant to your “couple.” Think of this as a project with a huge payoff: everlasting love.Comment